Bags and US Foster Kids
A comment written by a Former
Foster youth from Pound Pup Legacy (PPL)
– Exposing the Dark Side of Adoption, in reaction to earlier comments.
"I do know something about this
very issue. I grew up in foster care. I lived in fourteen different foster
homes, and two group homes before I was emancipated at the age of 16. Out of
those sixteen places, I moved to only one place with my things packed in anything
but a black plastic trash bag. I am not sure what has changed in the system
now. I have been out for eleven years. But one thing I do know, giving foster
children luggage is a VERY good gesture. This is coming from someone who GREW
UP in this system.
When my things were packed in
trash bags, it sent a very clear message. That my things were not valuable, and
I figured, if my things were not valuable than neither was I. I obviously do
not see it that way now, but as a child, I didn't have clarity in my thoughts.
I literally thought that trash was about what my life amounted to and that is
what the trash bags reinforced.
I am not saying that a duffle
bag will fix a childs life. The trash message is sent to these children long
before it is reinforced by trash bags. That is the truth. But dont
underestimate what a small kind gesture can do. and on a last note, the trash
bags hold such a connotation in my heart that I dont use them now. I use paper
bags or put my trash directly in the dumpster because the trash bags remind me
of that pain. Make fun of me or not, but that is the reality.
Just thought I would give the
input of someone who has actually been through what you all are arguing about
in a kind of a stupid manner considering you were not foster children
yourselves. Don't presume to know how someone feels unless you actually do.
And to the person who wrote the
original post. Thank you for caring."